You Should Know…

There’s a few other things I want to share with you.

First, I want to thank my husband, Anthony Spinnato Jr., for being my hero. His quick thinking and devotion literally saved my life. I’m so lucky to have such an amazing love in my life. No words can ever express my gratitude.

Second, I want you to know God was with me throughout my journey. I may have lost sight of His love but He never lost sight of me.

Lastly, your outpouring of love and support have filled my heart with such joy. I am blessed to have such incredible friends. Thank you!!

I am a Suicide Survivor

On October 10, 2018, I tried to end my own life. I’m not sharing because I want your tears or your pity. I’m sharing because I want you to help me raise awareness. Suicide is completely preventable. I also want you to know I care about you. You are never alone.

Hair Color Outside the Box

Today, I plan to color my own hair using salon quality products I purchased at Sally Beauty Supply. Unlike your typical drugstore boxed color, using a salon store typically offers you a much wider selection of colors and application types like permanent, semipermanent, demipermananent, metallic, and bleach.

Permanent hair color is just as it sounds.

Semipermanent and demipermanent are like cousins. Both wash out of your hair gradually. The difference is demi lasts longer than semi. Demi is used to darken your hair. Most people use semi to to enhance their natural hair color.

Metallics are a newer kind of hair color. They are not usually found inside boxed color. Metallic colors are made using metallic salts. Products geared towards men that add gradual color usually use metallics.

And, bleach is pretty straight up too. Bleach is used to lighten hair. Note: IF YOU ARE BLEACHING BECAUSE YOU WANT TO BE BLONDE, CONTACT A HAIR SALON. I bleach to get rid of dark color so I can dye a lighter shade only. If you are going to bleach, I suggest a bleach wash. Simply put, a bleach bath is one part bleach, 2 parts of 40 developer, and one part clarifying shampoo. Apply to hair using a tint brush. Please save your roots for last, trust me, because your roots can turn white. Keep checking hair for the correct color. Do not leave on more than 1 hour.

Now that you’ve chosen a color, it’s time to choose a developer. You can choose the developer made specifically for the brand you picked or you can get a general developer. I like to stick with the same brand but that’s just me. General developer works well and is usually cheaper than the name brand. While you are considering, think about the results you want.

10 volume developer is the most gentle on hair because there’s less peroxide. 10 is great if you are staying within the same shade as the color on your head now. Like going black to jet black, as an example.

20 volume developer offers a little more lift. It’s typically what is found in most boxed colors. It allows you shade shop in the same color range. For example, you can go from espresso to mocha brown.

30 volume developer has a higher lift due to higher levels of peroxide. This allows you to lighten your current shade by a couple levels. You could take that espresso shade to a light brown.

40 volume developer is most commonly used with bleach to significantly lighten hair multiple levels. I wouldn’t recommend using 40 for hair color application.

If you are new at this, go with the 20!! Check your hair color to find your ratio. 1:1 means 1 part color, one part developer. If you have 1 ounce of hair color, use one ounce of developer. If it’s 1:2 use one part color, 2 parts developer. If you have one ounce of color, use 2 ounces of developer.

Here’s the other items you need on your shopping list:

-barrier cream (not necessary but highly recommend)


-a deep conditioning pack

-a plastic bottle to mix color in and apply to hair OR a plastic bowl and plastic application brush

-plastic hair clips (a $1.50 for a dozen) to section hair

-plastic caps if you want (to section your hair)

Once you are back home with your purchases and you have dirty hair, you are ready to go forward with the process.

Dirty hair?

Yes, dirty hair. Not disgustingly dirty hair!! I mean hair that hasn’t been washed in the last 24 hours and doesn’t have a ton of product in it. I took my shower last night, skipped my deep conditioning treatment, and colored today.

To set up you’ll need all of your purchases plus a few extras. An old, ratty shirt that you don’t care about anymore, a hand towel or dishcloth you don’t care about, a washcloth you don’t care about, and an old towel are all the props you need to complete your mission!!

First, lay out the hand towel on your countertop. This will be your work area.

Section your hair into manageable pieces to work with. Make sure to comb each section before you pin it up. This will help with tangles.

If you opted to use barrier cream, apply a liberal amount to your hairline. Don’t forget your ears and the back of your neck, too.

Get your bottle (or bowl) out. Add developer to your bottle. Next, squeeze or pour your color into the bottle.

Time to glove up, Baby!! A little barrier cream at the tops of your glove may be a good idea, too.

Shake your bottle until the contents are well blended.

Starting at your roots, apply color. Make a line with the dye and rub it in. Continue to do this until your entire scalp feels wet and you can see your entire head is covered completely. If you wish to use a plastic hair cover, put it on now.

Check the time. Set your timer according to your package directions.

Clean up your mess!! Wipe off all barrier cream with your old washcloth and warm water.

If you find color spots outside the barrier cream areas, use soapy water and a bit of elbow grease. Rinse your bottle or bowl with warm water. Soak your clips and bottle in warm, soapy water.

Give yourself a mask or mini facial. Remember, we’re pampering you today!!

Time’s up!! Run a warm shower. Before getting in, make sure you have your old towel ready for when you get out. And, don’t forget to cut open your conditioning pack before you get in and put on new gloves!!

Rinse!! Just when you think you got it all, rinse more. Put the whole conditioning pack on your hair when the water runs clear. Remember to keep the conditioner on your hair for at least 2 minuets. Shave, scrub your face, pumice your feet, but keep that conditioner on as long as you can. That nice steamy shower will allow your product to soak in quite nicely.

Use your old towel to wrap your hair.

Style as usual.

Laughing at Myself: A Beauty Tip from the 80’s

Long before long wear lipstick, setting sprays, and contouring, we cassette loving, music playing on MTV, and all request dedication hours on the radio 80’s kids were rocking. We had the big hair, thanks to Rave #4. We had spiral perms. And, we had tons of makeup.

One tip I remember especially well was how to keep your lipstick going all day long. It wasn’t even that hard to do!!

First, you covered your lips with foundation, then you applied the first coat of lipstick.

Second, you got 2 sheets of toilet paper. You used the first sheet to blot your lips. The second sheet you pulled apart to make one sheet of one ply toilet paper. Pulling the sheets apart or, maybe even, one ply toilet paper seemed to be easier to do or find in the 80’s. Once you have your one ply sheet, put it on over your mouth.

Third, apply powder to the lips. You could do this with the powder puff provided with your pressed compact or use loose powder. The point is to apply powder to the lips through the one ply toilet paper. Make sure you used enough powder to make your lips slightly matte.

Fourth, apply another coat of lipstick after removing the one ply toilet paper. Now you should have lips that last until lunch, unless you had early PE!!

Let’s keep this going!! What is your 80’s makeup tip? If you don’t know about the 80’s, how about a weird/bizarre makeup tip? Can’t wait to see your responses!!

Vegan Friendly Hair Mask for Itchy, Dry Scalp

My head itches. No joke, it really itches. I know the culprit, over washing my hair. Sometimes, no matter if you use the best, most expensive shampoo and conditioner, your head gets itchy. Dry scalp, dandruff, over washing, product build up are just some of the ways we end up with itchy heads.

I have a real problem with dandruff and dry scalp shampoos in retail stores. The shampoo acts as a clarifier on your hair and scalp. For me, that means stripping the hair color off of my hair. And, personally, I want to keep my beautiful red hair for as long as I can. (Yes, the secret is out!! I’m not a natural red head.)

So, I decided to turn to the internet for a less damaging recipe. This is a vegan friendly, organic friendly dry scalp relief method.

2 tablespoons of Coconut Oil

5 tablespoons of Baking Soda

Melt your coconut oil (I used solid oil) in a microwave safe bowl for 1 minuet. Add baking soda one tablespoon at a time until you have a paste like consistency. Mine looked like a runny Elmer’s Glue.


I tried to put the paste into my hair like conditioner and quickly realized I was not getting my scalp very wet. So, I started at the bottom of my scalp and sort of sectioned my hair as best I could.

This mixture is rather sloppy so be prepared for some clean up. I also capped my head with a grocery store bag and a hair clip.

Leave mixture on for 20 minuets then wash as usual.

Since I already had to sit, I mashed you a single banana in a bowl and applied it to my face, too. A good, cheap, organic (you must buy organic bananas), and vegan friendly way to boost that retinol!!

So, I showered and washed my hair. I don’t blow dry my hair so I can only give you a damp perspective now.

1) I’m not itching at all.

2) While I still feel slightly oily in my roots, my hair is not showing any ill effects.

3) I might not try this again in the future, the messiness might put me off. I had baking soda everywhere in my bathroom. I’m thinking a spritz with coconut oil alone might have worked just as well in moisturizing the scalp minus the exfoliating benefits of the baking soda.